cumsockmonkey said: Tips for incoming college freshmen??
oooh, okay! this is kind of long, bear with me, but it’s all stuff I wish I had known when I’d started college!
- GET SLEEP — sleep whenever you can, preferably not in class. it’s so important and I guarantee you will not think so by the end of your first semester but your health and your mood will deteriorate if you don’t get enough shut-eye so try to fit it into your schedule as often as you can. you’ll always regret staying up late to marathon netflix but you’ll never regret getting an extra hour or two of sleep.
- MAKE FRIENDS — be as friendly as possible. the best thing about college is that everyone coming in is as nervous as you, no matter how much they may say any different. be nice to everyone in your classes, talk to strangers on the bus or at parties, find excuses to make a friend in each of your subjects because, let me tell you—if you ever take a sick day or miss an assignment, you’ll be so glad you had them as a resource. you’ll thus also make friends that you can hang out with, go out with, spend down time with, and that’s always great. there’s a joke on my engineering campus about me because I know seemingly everyone and it’s only because I’m friendly and open to whomever approaches me. I give everyone a chance!
- STUDY — study, study, study. I can’t stress this enough. study. the reason you’re paying this much money is because of school. the main reason you’re at this campus is because of school. study. make study buddy friends. study when it’s best for you. I study best at night but I had friends who studied best in the morning, so do what fits in your schedule the most. study. take a ridiculous amount of notes. color-code your shit. ask around and see if people who’ve taken the class the semester before you are willing to lend your their homework assignments or exams or labs so that you can have extra practice material. study. review for your exams at least a week in advance. make a schedule and stick to it. study. but also:
- REMEMBER TO TAKE A BREAK — this is a huge lifestyle change. there’s going to be times when everything’s too much. learn about yourself. meditate. take a long, slow walk. knit. read a comic book. do something to unwind and make sure you’re mentally fit. if that means going on tumblr, so be it. just keep track of your time spent. keep good record of your mental health as well because no one else will. if you feel too anxious or stressed, make sure to find counseling or health services on campus. keep yourself refreshed and focused and calm and happy and ready for whatever life may send your way.
- EXERCISE — I know half of you may be groaning as you read this, but it’s so necessary. you can do it to relax or you can do it for fun or for the actual workout but do it. even if it’s just swimming or casually shooting hoops or taking nice walks or playing frisbee with your friends. you’ll probably be walking a lot around campuses anyways. try to spend time outside and to be active because you’ll spend too much time on your butt indoors.
- GET TO KNOW YOUR PROFESSORS — they have office hours for a reason. go and just chat. say hi, introduce yourself. be nice and be active in class, even if you don’t understand the material. I can’t tell you how many times a good relationship with a professor has secured a passing grade for me in a class. be friendly, talk to them if you see them randomly on campus, show them that you’re attentive and that you care about what they’re doing.
- BE THRIFTY — you’re probably going to be on a limited budget. be aware of how much you spend and what you spend it on. for me, it’s mostly food. in order to save up money at the end of last year, though, I cut my spending down to eating out only once a week, and it made such a huge difference in my bank account. see if you can get all your textbooks online for free. pay for as little as possible, if you need to. if you know you’re going to be heading out on a huge bar crawl or something on the weekend, be frugal during the week. learn to budget your money and plan ahead for these things. don’t do something stupid like spend all your rent money and then make yourself look like a jackass. you’re going to have to make sacrifices once in a while.
- MAKE EXTRA CASH — there are so many opportunities for this on a college campus. first of all, if your college has a psychology department, check it out. a lot of times they hold experiments/surveys which they are willing to pay you for. sure, it may only be like $20-$30 at first, but if you take enough of them, you’ll be bringing in a good amount of extra cash for whatever you may need it for. if you need a job, apply on campus! find somewhere you like the atmosphere of. see if you can get a job in a dining hall or something university-related. if not, get a job somewhere you’d like to have an employee discount at. if you’re good at a class, see if there’s any grader positions opening up, they pay well. work at a writing center or as an administrative assistant or something simple that’ll give you a good cash flow.
- KNOW YOUR CAMPUS — spend a free day just walking around. learn where the nearest drugstore is, how to get to a good movie theater, where all your classes are. it’ll come in good use in the future, I guarantee it. there’re also so many school-funded events going on on the weekends that’re substance-free but a lot of fun. find out where the administrative buildings are. apply for scholarships and grants because why the fuck not??? see what you can get out of your school. so many schools offer so many free things. take advantage of them all. there’s free meals and free shirts everywhere, every day, if you look carefully enough.
- STAY SAFE — a lot of places offer campus services to drive you home or to walk you home or to escort you to locations. don’t get cocky, especially if you identify as a female and it’s late at night and you’re walking back from your friend’s place down a seedy street. use protection when you have sex. make sure there’s a friend nearby whenever you get drunk or stoned or anything else.
- VOLUNTEER — it’ll make you feel good. there’s usually also free food involved if you do it through an organization. be a pen pal for some kindergarteners. clean up your campus. support a petition.
- JOIN STUDENT GROUPS — you need these, both as a resume booster and a way to keep your mind clear. if you like to dance, dance. if you like to argue, debate. whatever floats your boat. there’s usually activity/group fairs, go explore those and find whatever you want to do. don’t be afraid to join something you were always scared to—college is a time to explore your interests and find out who you really are!
- KEEP IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE CLOSE TO YOU — have someone back home who you can talk to. if you go home and visit, be open and friendly. regardless of what you may think, there definitely are people who miss you. write postcards and letters and send them off for no reason at all. skype with your parents. facetime your brother or sister. meet up for lunch with your best friend.
- EXPLORE YOURSELF — learn new things about who you are. do some introspection. find out why you behave certain ways. try to better yourself. if you think your major is not for you, change it. fuck what your parents say. do what makes you happy, study what you know you won’t regret in the future, regardless of what people around you may say about it. try going vegetarian. maybe even vegan. or gluten-free. see if being straight-edge fits the kind of life you want ot have. kiss someone new. kiss someone of a totally different gender. maybe you’ll realize you don’t want to kiss anyone at all, ever. and that’s fine. find out what turns you on. more importantly, find out what turns you off. know yourself inside and out.
- DO SOMETHING RIDICULOUS — it’s college, for fuck’s sake. make out with someone. try weed for the first time. stay up all night one saturday and eat a whole pack of oreos with a friend. go wild. let yourself have one night in a month where you do something so unexpected you surprise even yourself. have fun. get a small, secret tattoo. write a love note to yourself. say hi to someone you’ve never talked to before but seen around a lot. give yourself a whole new personality trait.
there’s probably a few more things I’m going to think of as soon as I post this, but this is the basic gist of it all. I hope all of you guys have a ton of fun when school starts!